Stories That Sting

Scripture

Deuteronomy 13:12-15 (New Revised Standard Version)

If you hear it said about one of the towns that the Lord your God is giving you to live in, that scoundrels from among you have gone out and led the inhabitants of the town astray, saying, “Let us go and worship other gods,” whom you have not known, then you shall inquire and make a thorough investigation. If the charge is established that such an abhorrent thing has been done among you, you shall put the inhabitants of that town to the sword, utterly destroying it and everything in it—even putting its livestock to the sword.

Consider

A rumor is an unsubstantiated report arising from an uncertain source that is circulated informally, often in whispers from person to person.

Already, it sounds pretty shaky.

Add to that God’s warning not to act on a rumor until we have thoroughly investigated its validity, and we wonder how we allow rumors to exercise such powerful influence over our perceptions of people and events. Yet how many times have we put to the sword our good opinion of someone or our trust in a relationship on the strength of something we heard or we thought we understood without looking deeper?

Rumors are dangerous. Like wildfire, they can scorch those who handle them, destroy reputations, escalate conflict, and reduce relationships to ashes.

Pray

FATHER, I confess to my fascination with rumors. Not only have I passed along rumors I’ve heard, but I have also started some myself. I have judged others unfairly because I was either too lazy or too biased to verify a circulating story. Where I have hurt others, help me to make amends. Give me grace to stop my ears against idle gossip and my tongue against speaking half-truths and self-serving opinions.

Reflect

Proverbs 6:16-19; James 3:5-6

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Have you ever been the victim of a rumor? In what ways did you suffer?

Rx for A Bitter Heart, Part 1: The Disease

This is the first of four articles on Resentment.

Resentment is a poisonous attitude that infects our hearts, contaminates our relationships, and destroys our peace. When we suffer a relationship wound, resentment keeps our pain alive and prevents us from healing and moving on.

A Subtle Sickness

Like a virulent strain of flu, resentment can sneak past our defenses and lay siege to our hearts before we even realize we’ve been infected. In its early stages resentment may seem normal and justified. It can feel powerful, like a weapon we can use to keep ourselves strong and safe from further injury.

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Battle of the Grudge

Scripture

Galatians 5:17 (New Living Translation)

The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions.

Consider

Our sinful nature is always willing to do battle over injuries and insults we suffer in relationships. Selfish motives compel us to hurt back, punish, or escalate conflict rather than let some wrongdoer off the hook.

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Love Turned Bitter

Scripture

2 Samuel 6:16 (New International Version)

As the ark of the Lord was entering the City of David, Michal daughter of Saul watched from a window. And when she saw King David leaping and dancing before the Lord, she despised him in her heart.

Consider

Bitterness often draws its energy from a love betrayed or a loyalty or trust that was abused. We may get annoyed or even angry at a stranger, but we rarely feel bitter. Bitterness takes hold of us in proportion to the depth of our passion—if we love deeply, our bitterness will be sharp and difficult to dislodge.

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Book Review: Sober Mercies

Sober Mercies: How Love Caught Up with a Christian Drunk. By Heather Kopp.

In September 2006 Heather Kopp, a longtime Christian who authored and edited Christian books, was forced to confront her drinking problem. Sober Mercies is the true story of her journey toward sobriety and of finding hope when the God she had always believed in couldn’t save her.

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